You want it to be easy, don’t you? Life. I mean you do all the right things…go through the right motions.
You’re a great person, nice to your neighbours, you mind your own business and you’re respectful of others. You worked earnestly at school and you still try hard now to be great at your job. You’re a devoted mother/sister/wife/friend. You do your best and maybe you even go to church on a Sunday. You keep your house clean(ish)
sometimes obsessively so and your washing’s always up to date – mostly. You don’t make waves… you fit in. You don’t laugh too loudly or make inappropriate jokes. You dress for your social circle and try never to offend anyone.
You deserve to be happy. Yes!
Of course you do.
And you keep thinking that, one day, soon hopefully, you’ll have all your ducks in a row and life will be just peachy perfect. You just have one or two more things to ‘fix’ and then you can relax – and be truly happy.
Except that life is unpredictable. Life doesn’t fit into your pretty picture scenario at all like you want and expect it to. Life is answerable only unto itself. Life can’t be restrained, confined or shaped to fit. Not in the way you intend anyway.
Life lives through YOU!
It’s Life that will call you forth – stretch you, test you, shake you up and challenge you. More often than not, this will happen right at the very moment that you think you’re bordering on getting it all together. Murphy’s Law strikes again
Paradoxically though, the quicker we truly integrate the fact that Life isn’t linear, or meant to be easy, the easier Life becomes.
Not because it stops presenting us challenges, oh my Lordy wordy wordy no! On the contrary my dear Watson!
But because we fully recognise that all those ups and downs and challenges ARE Life. As the old saying goes… ‘Zat’s Life!’ C’est la vie babes!
There’s just no getting around it. That simple acceptation on its own makes things a whole lot easier. Life just plain hurts less when we stop expecting it to be anything other than it is. When we neither brace ourselves for the fall, nor fall into resigned complacency, nor curse nor scream that it’s not fair.
Life takes on all its fullness and vibrancy when we accept the challenges that are thrown at us and take them on with optimism and curiosity. When we stop the doubting ‘whatiffery’ the whiny ‘OH GOOOOOOOOD WHY MEEEEEE’s’. When we stop the ‘I don’t have time‘ and ‘I’m not ready‘ excuses. (Excuse me but when don’t you have time and when are you ‘not ready’ to embrace life? You live every day! )
When we look for ‘hows’ rather than ‘why’s.’ When we step up and stop the dead-end, stomach churning angst and start replacing it with real, intentional, heartfelt soul searching. This is hard. It takes courage, strength and stamina. However, that’s our work!
It’s worth it! Yes it is! This is YOUR LIFE! And it starts right at the edge of your comfort zone – often at the most inconvenient of times !
There is no right time. There’s nothing to wait for. Embrace it!
P.S. My funky postcards giving 15% off the Opening Doors workshops have arrived!! OOHWEEE Youplaboum! That’s my surprise for this week. If you need a bit of a nudge to embrace life then come to Opening Doors! Artfully embracing life is our specialty!
Next workshop on March 21-23. Click on this page for details of how to sign up. Hope to see you there!