Seriously ! Don’t !
If you have an amazing idea or something that your soul is tugging, nudging and screaming at you to try out, FOR GOODNESS SAKE don’t ask anyone what they think about it. Because chances are it will be nipped in the bud quicker than bare feet across hot sand.
Why ? Because 99% of people don’t have any more idea than you do. Really. They don’t.
What they probably do have though is a lot more apprehension around the idea than you might. And what does that mean ? It means you’ll drown those dreams of yours in a rocky sea of fears and doubt.
And damn ! That fragile, delicate idea ; the one that makes your soul sing and fills you with optimism, hope and energy? Well, it just plum disappears in a shower of ‘Oh, you think so’s ?’ and ‘Maybe you’re right’s’ or even, ‘I’m probably not even cut out for it anyway’s.’ And you slink away, energy low, shoulders slumped, dejected but ‘reassured’ that your place is where it always has been : right with the people you asked.
Don’t ask anyone who has never thought of leaving their own village whether you should backpack through Asia then settle down for a new life in Singapore. They don’t know.
Don’t ask someone who’s always worked for a big company (maybe even the same one for their whole career, bless ‘em) or in the public service, whether or not you should start your own business. They don’t know. They aren’t doing it and, for their own very valid reasons, they prefer the security of a monthly salary from an employer. They are not cut out for the entrepreneurial life, which is why you shouldn’t be asking them in the first place.
Don’t ask … ANYONE…whether you should: travel, start a business, row across the Pacific océan, join pole dancing classes, go vegan, live out West of Woop Woop, past the Black Stump (insert your dream here…)’ unless…
…Unless they have already done it. Unless they are a beacon of inspiration and hope. Unless they are the very best in that exact, same field or have succeeded in something similar themselves. Or even if they have failed in something similar because in the end it wasn’t their thing but they tried, then went on to succeed in something uniquely them and equally as interesting.
But still, don’t ask.
Don’t ask WHETHER...
Maybe ask…’HOW ?‘ There’s nothing wrong with learning from someone’s experience. But there’s a lot wrong with asking someone who has NO EXPERIENCE in the matter, wouldn’t have a sparrow’s fart of an idea more than you, and who for the life of them couldn’t figure out why on Earth you might want to do (whatever it is you want to do), because they want to do other things – or maybe even NOT.
If you really want advice on HOW to do something, learn from the best. Ask the champions, the pioneers, the leaders and the explorers. Or, if that seems too scary, get the biographies of those who’ve challenged themselves, challenged prevailing beliefs and actually taken the risk of failing. Ask those who have followed their talent to the brilliant but sometimes dark place where it leads. Ask those who have felt the sting of rejection/defeat, but had the courage to rise again and overcome.
Don’t ask your parents (unless maybe you’re under 18 – are you?), your sister in law, your hairdresser, your best friend’s dog, the boy next door, your cheese man, the local hedge trimmer…
Because THEY. DON’T. KNOW.
A deep part of you knows exactly what you should be doing. That deep part of you is called your soul. It has its own agenda, its own purpose. And it just KNOWS.
So possum, the only person you should ask ‘whether or not to take the leap,’ is yourself.
And you will only find an answer by following your heart, your gut, your intuition and your joyful curiosity about life, then taking the said leap, or even any small action that moves you a tiny step in that direction.
AND (again), let’s face it, you don’t need permission from anybody to do that.
What you do need is stillness, courage, resilience and resourcefulness.
You have it in you.
Don’t ask ;-)